Let’s square on thing away right off the bat: I don’t define myself as a feminist. If my daughters grow up and earn certain levels of achievement and status in the real world you won’t find my chanting “Girl Power!” from the rooftops. You will find me in the kitchen saying to my husband, “Thank goodness we forced and dragged them into that college degree.” Oh yeah, they are going. I don’t care if they desperately want to grow up to be a musician, a clown or a mermaid, their fannies are earning a degree first dammit. It is non negotiable. What they do with that degree will be up to them. Will they grow to be future CEOs of massive money-making corporations? Perhaps. Will they tuck that $50,000 paper away and stay home and raise a family? Maybe. Will they choose to work in public service fields like their father and I did? Who know. The point here is that we value education in our home nearly as much as we value being a kind and fair human being. We are raising our girls to see themselves as valued, intelligent, not entitled and free-ranging.
So I am not a feminist. Yes I believe a gender pay gap in American culture and business exsists. You can read my ranty little diddy on that HERE. Do I think women should rise about all men and hold all power in the name of feminism? Lord no. That’s just as stupid as saying that men should do the same. There is a PERSON for every job. lately I find myself in the minority concerning feminism though. Feminism is all the rage right now and because I have four daughters and tend to be a bit outspoken and opinionated I should hypothetically be leading the pussy hats right now. With Trump taking office the American women have recovered their political voices and are making themselves heard. Good for them. They should be heard, we all should be heard, but not because we are of one gender. In light of recent event I find myself wondering if some are taking the idea of feminism a bit to far; far from reality and far from its roots. What once stood for equality now looks like a publicity stunt and a creepy, mildly uncomfortable circus act.
Take for example co-founder of Thinx, Miki Agrawal. Here is a woman that on the surface looks like the poster child for Feminism. She has devoted her life and career to de-stigmatizing menstruation. Thinkx had some lofty feminist-based goals ranging from revolutionizing how women approach their “time of the month” to providing an entire continent with sanitary products. For a hot minute they were looking like a mighty (trendy) female force to be reckoned with.
Cue smoke and mirrors.
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